Thursday 28 September 2023
GOALS!
GOALS!
"GOALS: How to Get Everything You Want - Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible" by Brian Tracy - A Road-map to Achieving Success
Brian Tracy: A Pinnacle of Personal Development and Success
Other Books by Brian Tracy
- Maximum Achievement
- Advanced Selling Strategies
- Success Is a Journey
- The 100 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Business Success
- Eat That Frog! 2nd Edition
- Get Paid More and Promoted Faster
- Hire and Keep the Best People
- 21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires
- Focal Point
- Be a Sales Superstar
- Create Your Own Future
- Many Miles to Go
- Turbo Strategy
- Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life
- Million Dollar Habits
- Time Power
- Getting Rich Your Own Way
- Something for Nothing
- Turbo Coach
- The Psychology of Selling
- The Power of Charm
- Crunch Point
- The Way to Wealth
- The Art of Closing the Sale
- The Way to Wealth in Action
- The Way to Wealth Workbook
- Flight Plan
- Speak to Win
- Reinvention
- How the Best Leaders Lead
- No Excuses!
Faith That Prevails by Smith Wiggles worth 1938
Faith That Prevails by Smith Wiggles worth 1938
Showers Of Blessing : By A. Lionel General Overseer Blessing Youth Mission
Showers Of Blessing : By A. Lionel General Overseer Blessing Youth Mission
Robin Sharma's Best Books
Robin Sharma's Best Books
- Volume – 1: The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
- Volume – 2: The Greatness Guide
- Volume – 3: Leadership Wisdom
- Volume – 4: Who Will Cry When You Die?
- Volume – 5: Mega Living: 30 Days To A Perfect Life
- Volume – 6: Family Wisdom
- Volume – 7: The Greatness Guide 2
- Volume – 8: Daily Inspiration
- Volume – 9: Discover Your Destiny
- Volume –10: The Secret Letters
1. "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" (Volume 1):
2. "The Greatness Guide" (Volume 2):
3. "Leadership Wisdom" (Volume 3):
4. "Who Will Cry When You Die?" (Volume 4):
5. "Mega Living: 30 Days To A Perfect Life" (Volume 5):
6. "Family Wisdom" (Volume 6):
7. "The Greatness Guide 2" (Volume 7):
8. "Daily Inspiration" (Volume 8):
9. "Discover Your Destiny" (Volume 9):
10. "The Secret Letters" (Volume 10):
Thursday 21 September 2023
Staying Positive
Staying Positive
“A great manager has a knack for making ballplayers think they are better than they think they are. He forces you to have a good opinion of yourself. He lets you know he believes in you. He makes you get more out of yourself. And once you learn how good you really are,you never settle for playing anything less than your very best.” - Reggie Jackson
Be your own great manager!
INTRODUCTION
Research shows that approximately 87% of the things we say to ourselves about ourselves are negative, self-destructive, and undermining. This negative self-talk leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy – what we tell ourselves creates a mindset which makes our self talk come true.
Optimists know that – sometimes, people know it naturally on a subconscious level and seldom need positive self-talk ; other times, people become optimists through deliberately practising positive self talk.
Negative self talk increase your unhappiness and incompetence. It can make you unhealthy and self-destructive.
Fortunately, positive self talk can do just the opposite – it can make you healthier, happier, more confident, and more competent. Realistic, practical optimism is a choice you can make on purpose to help you manage your life successfully.
There is a set of characteristics that most optimists have in common, but through use of certain strategies naturally used by optimists, pessimists can turn themselves into optimists.
Realistic, practical optimism is not
• A denial of reality
• Masking over problems
• Pointless hoping
• Pollyanna thinking
• "See-no-evil, hear-no-evil" thinking
• A panacea.
It is
• A system for confronting problems
• A way to choose the best outcomes
• A method for coping with any challenges
• A happier, healthier approach to life.
Each one of us has a unique set of experiences in life that gives us a model of the world that includes our interests, likes and dislikes, values, and emotional tendencies.
We are all born with coping abilities which change as we interact with the world. As we grow up, our coping skills can become weaker or stronger and we can become more positive or negative in our attitude.
At one time psychiatrists believed that we react to life's stresses by avoiding, repressing, or denying them. Now we know that all of us are born with the potential to manage stress, but not all people make the most of that potential.
To be human means that we can change our habits and our patterns of behavior. We can identify what makes us cope successfully and the things that impede that. We can analyze our own approach to life and challenge and replace our less successful coping methods.
This eBook will explain the mental attitude at the heart of optimism, the obstacles to being optimistic, the techniques you can use to strengthen optimism, and the benefits of having a realistic and practical optimistic approach to life.
THE POWER OF REALISTIC, PRACTICAL OPTIMISM
The cornerstone of optimism is self-esteem, which is the basis of all psychological growth. Our resilience in the face of adversity is determined by our self-esteem. In his book, The Power of Self-Esteem, Dr. Nathaniel Branden defines self esteem as being "The experience that we are appropriate to life and to the requirements of life. (It is)
1. Confidence in our ability to think and to cope with the challenges of life.
2. Confidence in our right to be happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled to assert our needs and wants and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.”
When our self-esteem is low, we are much more vulnerable to negative forces. We surfer from a sense of not being enough, a generalised feeling of self-distrust, and a feeling of unworthiness. We will be less defective and less creative than if we had healthy self-esteem. If we have realistic confidence in our value, we are empowered, energised, and motivated. We see the world as open to us, and we are able to respond appropriately to both challenges and opportunities. This is more important today than ever since we need more self-management and innovation than ever before.
Other Characteristics of Optimistic People
Commitment to Life - They believe that life is worth living. Absolutely. This belief gives them passion which feeds their optimism.
Flexibility - Flexible people can modify their habits to work with others, personally and professionally. They are usually cooperative so have reciprocal relationships with family, friends, and coworkers.
Resourcefulness - Optimistic people are resourceful. They have faced and thought through situations and know where to turn for support and how to find help when they need it.
Willingness to Risk - The optimist doesn't have to play it safe when it looks like a risk will pay of.
Acceptance of Personal Responsibility - Optimists have a realistic assessment of themselves. They are not victims, don't make excuses, and learn from their mistakes.
Perspective - Optimists are realists who can see what is important and what is not. They work to solve the serious issues and ignore the inconsequential ones.
Openness - Optimists welcome new ideas and change. They realistically evaluate new information for use now or in the future.
Proactive Attitude - Optimists meet challenges with action - they're proactive rather than reactive. They aren't paralysed by fear of failure or the unknown.
Attention - Optimists pay attention to the world around them. They listen to others' ideas rather than shutting them out. Eric Fromm said that the ability to love yourself must come before you can love another person.
That's equally true when it comes to self-respect, self-acceptance, or self-confidence. You need to understand what these are by feeling them for yourself.
Then you can give them to other people. Many of us have been taught as children not to be prideful, but respect and love for yourself are not prideful. They are the right of every person, and they are the basis of optimism and positive thinking.
OBSTACLES TO OPTIMISM
We are all born with a degree of natural self-confidence, the basis of optimism. But it is eroded for all of us to varying extents by negative influences. The most common are
Blame and Criticism
Blame and criticism can come in all stages of life. First, your parents probably handed out quite a bit of criticism while trying to teach you the right things to do. Whether it was just or unjust criticism, it could have diminished your confidence. Later, you may have experienced blame and criticism in school. From grades to sports, you were always being compared to others, and no one is the best at everything. The workplace is another area where we receive criticism. It can be severe, depending on the manager and the culture of the company.
Finally, your partner may be critical, comparing you to an ideal in his or her mind. The result of this blame and criticism can be that
• You think everything is your fault
• You become vulnerable to criticism
• You don't take risks because you might fail.
Conformity
As we begin to grow up, many of us learn that it is safer to be quiet and conform to the crowd. It could be that when we stepped out and were wrong, we were laughed at. On the other hand, if we were right too often, we'd be criticized for that. The safe route was to watch what others did and do that. The result of these experiences can be
• You don't take opportunities when they come along
• You become a people pleaser
• You live based on what you "should" do instead of what you really want to do.
Competition
Again, school is an environment where we are all in competition for grades, at sports, at music, etc. If we continually try our best and are not rewarded for it, we become accustomed to disappointment and may start to believe that we will never be “enough.” This can lead to
• You doubting your own ability
• You comparing yourself with others
• You putting yourself under extra stress to succeed.
Disappointment
Perfectionism
It's a simple two-step process that works quite well if you consistently practice it. Here's an example: Self-Talk for Perfectionism
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